Receiving Grace

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Staying Grounded In Uncertain Times

April 2026 Blog

(A Reflection for a Tender Season)


There are seasons when we strive, when we reach, stretch, and push ourselves to hold everything together. And then there are quieter seasons, almost imperceptible at first, when life begins to invite us into something different. Not more effort, but less. Not striving, but receiving.


This month, I find myself in that kind of season.


After a time of uncertainty, of wondering what might unfold, I have been met, not with disruption, but with steadiness. A kind word from a manager. A productive day that did not require urgency. Conversations that mattered, even if they were few. None of it is dramatic. All of it grace.


Grace often arrives this way, unannounced, unearned, and easy to overlook if we are only looking for something larger.


And yet, as this month unfolds, I am aware that we are moving toward a tender place on the calendar. Mother’s Day is approaching. For some, it will be a day of celebration. For others, it will carry the quiet weight of absence, longing, regret, or complicated love. For many, it will be all of these at once.


In my work as a bereavement counselor, I see how days like this can stir what has been gently held. Grief has a way of finding its way to the surface when the world is telling us what we are “supposed” to feel. Joy can feel out of reach. Or, just often, joy and sorrow sit side by side, asking to be acknowledged together.


Grace meets us here, too.


Grace does not ask us to feel something we do not feel. It does demand that we tidy up our grief or shape it into something more acceptable. Grace allows for truth. It makes room for whatever is present: love, loss, gratitude, pain, even numbness.


And perhaps most importantly, grace removes the burden of performance.


There is no “right way” to move through Mother’s Day.


Some will gather with family. Some will light a candle. Some will avoid the day altogether. Some will find themselves unexpectedly undone in the grocery store aisle or during a quiet moment at home. All of it belongs. All of it is human.


I think about my own life, about motherhood in all its forms. The joy, the heartbreak, the places where I showed up well, and the places where I fell short. The children I have loved, the losses I have carried, the moments of connection that came too late or just in time.


If I am not careful, I can revisit these memories with judgment. I can measure what was given against what was missed. I can wonder if I did enough, if I was enough.


But grace speaks differently.


Grace does not erase the past, but it softens how I hold it. It reminds me that I loved as I knew how to love at the time. That I was growing, even when I could not see it. That reconciliation, when it came, was not something I manufactured, but something I received.


Grace allows me to remember without condemning myself.


It allows me to honor what was, without being trapped there.


In recovery, I have learned that I do the footwork, and I leave the results to a power greater than myself. That, too, is a form of grace. I show up. I make amends where I can. I remain open. And then I trust that what unfolds is held in something larger than my own effort.


This is not always easy. There is a part of me that still wants to earn peace, to work for it, to deserve it, to make it happen. But peace, like grace, does not come through striving. It comes through surrender.


Receiving grace requires something of me, too. It asks that I loosen my grip. That I release the need to control outcomes. That I trust that I am held, even when I am uncertain.


It asks that I believe this simple truth: I do not have to do everything. I only have to do what is mine to do.


And perhaps this Mother’s Day, whether it finds me in joy, in sorrow, or somewhere in between, I can practice receiving grace in its simplest form.


A quiet moment.


A memory held gently.


A tear that is allowed to fall without explanation.


A sense that love, once given, is never entirely lost.


Grace does not rush me forward.


It meets me exactly where I am.


As I move through this month, I want to practice grace in its quieter forms, the steady rhythm of a day that unfolds without crisis, the warmth of connection, the soft landing at the end of a long day. These are not small things. They are the very substance of a life being lived with intention and care.


Today, I am learning not just to work, not just to serve, but to receive.


And that, too, is enough.


For Reflection


Where is grace meeting you today, perhaps in a way you almost missed?


And what might it look like to receive it, just as it is?


Closing Prayer


God,


Help me to receive what You so freely give,


In this tender season, where love and loss often walk side by side, steady my heart.


When I am tempted to measure or judge my life, remind me that I am held in Your mercy.


Soften the memories that ache, and bless the ones that bring comfort.

For those who grieve, bring peace.


For those who celebrate, bring gratitude.


For all of us, bring the quiet assurance that we are not alone.


Teach me to live this day with open hands, to receive grace without resistance, and to trust that what has been given in love is never lost.


Amen

January stopped me in my tracks.


Not in a dramatic way, but in a quiet, unmistakable one. My body asked something of me that I could not ignore. There was no pushing through, no rearranging the day to fit my plans. There was only slowing down…and an invitation to listen.


By the time April arrived, life had begun to take on a more familiar rhythm again. Meetings returned. Responsibilities resumed. The days filled in.


But something in me has changed.


I find myself moving more carefully, not out of fear, but out of awareness. A kind of attentiveness had taken root, one that I had not always allowed. For much of my life, I believed that strength meant endurance. It meant showing up, pushing through, getting it done, no matter how I felt.


And in many ways, that belief carried me.


But it also cost me.


Recovery has been teaching me something different. Strength is not only about what we carry. It is also about what we are willing to set down.


April, for me, has become a month of grounding.


Not the kind of grounding that feels solid and certain all the time, but the kind that is practiced. The kind that must be returned to, again and again, especially when life feels unsteady.


Uncertainty does not always announce itself loudly. Sometimes it shows up in small ways, in a shift in health, a change in routine, a conversation that lingers, a responsibility that feels heavier than usual. Sometimes it is simply the awareness that life is more fragile than we would like to believe.


In earlier years, I would have responded to that feeling by doing more. Filling the space, staying busy. Keeping moving so I would not have to sit with what I was feeling.


Today, I am learning to do something different.


I am learning to pause.


To begin the day with intention, not just activity. To take a moment before my work begins and invite God into what lies ahead. Not perfectly, and not every time, but with growing willingness.


I am learning that grounding can be very simple.


It can be a quiet prayer before a phone call.


A breath taken before responding.


A decision not to fill every hour of the evening.


A willingness to rest when rest is needed.


It can be the choice to be present with one person, one task, one moment, without rushing ahead to the next.


There is a different kind of steadiness that comes from this way of living. It is not dependent on everything going well. It does not require certainty. It comes from returning, again and again, to what is real, what is needed, what is in front of me.


Some days I do this better than others.


There are still moments when I feel the pull to overextend, to take on too much, to prove something that no longer needs proving. There are still days when I forget to pause, when I move too quickly, when I lose that sense of centeredness.


But even then, I can return.


That, perhaps, is the greatest gift of recovery. Not perfection, but the ability to begin again. To notice when I have drifted and gently come back.


This month, I have also been reminded that connection is part of grounding.


Not the kind that overwhelms, but the intentional kind. A conversation with a sponsee. A shared moment in a meeting. A simple check-in with a friend. These moments anchor me in ways that isolation never could.


And so, April becomes less about control and more about trust.


Trust that I do not have to manage everything.


Trust that I can take things one step at a time.


Trust that I can listen to my body, to my spirit, to the quiet guidance that is always present when I slow down enough to hear it.


Life will always have its uncertainties. That does not change.


But how I meet them can.


I do not have to rush.


I do not have to fill every space.


I do not have to carry everything alone.


I can be grounded.


Right here.


In this moment.


With what is given.


And for today, that is enough.

January stopped me in my tracks.


Not in a dramatic way, but in a quiet, unmistakable one. My body asked something of me that I could not ignore. There was no pushing through, no rearranging the day to fit my plans. There was only slowing down…and an invitation to listen.


By the time April arrived, life had begun to take on a more familiar rhythm again. Meetings returned. Responsibilities resumed. The days filled in.


But something in me has changed.


I find myself moving more carefully, not out of fear, but out of awareness. A kind of attentiveness had taken root, one that I had not always allowed. For much of my life, I believed that strength meant endurance. It meant showing up, pushing through, getting it done, no matter how I felt.


And in many ways, that belief carried me.


But it also cost me.


Recovery has been teaching me something different. Strength is not only about what we carry. It is also about what we are willing to set down.


April, for me, has become a month of grounding.


Not the kind of grounding that feels solid and certain all the time, but the kind that is practiced. The kind that must be returned to, again and again, especially when life feels unsteady.


Uncertainty does not always announce itself loudly. Sometimes it shows up in small ways, in a shift in health, a change in routine, a conversation that lingers, a responsibility that feels heavier than usual. Sometimes it is simply the awareness that life is more fragile than we would like to believe.


In earlier years, I would have responded to that feeling by doing more. Filling the space, staying busy. Keeping moving so I would not have to sit with what I was feeling.


Today, I am learning to do something different.


I am learning to pause.


To begin the day with intention, not just activity. To take a moment before my work begins and invite God into what lies ahead. Not perfectly, and not every time, but with growing willingness.


I am learning that grounding can be very simple.


It can be a quiet prayer before a phone call.


A breath taken before responding.


A decision not to fill every hour of the evening.


A willingness to rest when rest is needed.


It can be the choice to be present with one person, one task, one moment, without rushing ahead to the next.


There is a different kind of steadiness that comes from this way of living. It is not dependent on everything going well. It does not require certainty. It comes from returning, again and again, to what is real, what is needed, what is in front of me.


Some days I do this better than others.


There are still moments when I feel the pull to overextend, to take on too much, to prove something that no longer needs proving. There are still days when I forget to pause, when I move too quickly, when I lose that sense of centeredness.


But even then, I can return.


That, perhaps, is the greatest gift of recovery. Not perfection, but the ability to begin again. To notice when I have drifted and gently come back.


This month, I have also been reminded that connection is part of grounding.


Not the kind that overwhelms, but the intentional kind. A conversation with a sponsee. A shared moment in a meeting. A simple check-in with a friend. These moments anchor me in ways that isolation never could.


And so, April becomes less about control and more about trust.


Trust that I do not have to manage everything.


Trust that I can take things one step at a time.


Trust that I can listen to my body, to my spirit, to the quiet guidance that is always present when I slow down enough to hear it.


Life will always have its uncertainties. That does not change.


But how I meet them can.


I do not have to rush.


I do not have to fill every space.


I do not have to carry everything alone.


I can be grounded.


Right here.


In this moment.


With what is given.


And for today, that is enough.